“You’re remembered only when you’re needed”

Couldn’t agree more.

Ankit Mishra

“Color is only beautiful when it means something..”

You need to accept the fact that not every smiling face is your friend. People will come to you when they need something. I have a question, when was the last time you received a call saying “Hey, I just called up for mere talk, no favors”?. Don’t remember?? In fact, I didn’t get any of such calls and even a text. People are so busy in their life that they don’t have time to connect for once. They will remember you when they know you are helpful for them.

They will ping you to like their Facebook status & pictures, you’ll lend them your money because they are in very much need for some or the other reason, do something great for them as they are expecting something & if you don’t then they pretend you have done wrong to them. You have…

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Of BFFs and besties

Having girlfriends is quite crucial in a girl’s life. We read about it in books, see it in the movies. The Girl Code, sisters before misters, chicks before dicks. We’ve all heard these sayings more than once in our lives. Everyday, around us. Movies, TV shows, books, music, you name it. They all preach the importance of sisterhood, having girl friends, and as they say “boys come and go but girlfriends are forever.”

This had me thinking. And it came as a blow. When I think about BFFs and besties and girl friends, I can’t name one in my life. Like. Yes. I had BFFs, I had plenty. Just, the friendship wouldn’t last long no matter what I tried. Every year, I’d make a new BFF, and every time I would lose her to someone or something else. And that would leave me feeling sad all the time.

I am not that kind of person who has a big circle of friends, I’ve never been that person. The friends that I have are very few. Mostly one or two. And I don’t talk to anybody who hasn’t ever spoken to me. I don’t know, I just don’t like meeting new people.

I know when I started becoming this reserved. I changed schools three times in 4 years, and thus, I had no friends. I’d stay to myself, mind my own business. The whole of sixth grade, I was friendless. I was the new girl and nobody would talk to me. In seventh grade, there was only one girl whom I spoke with. For the next two years, she became my BFFFFFF. Seriously. I was so happy that someone was friends with me, I think I freaked her out by being too excited. But. In the ninth grade, she got in a separate class, and we would only meet when it was the lunch period or when the school was over. Gradually, she had different friends and I was left alone again.

In the tenth grade, there was this girl, who sat next to me and she became a good friend. But we never spoke once we finished school, so. That doesn’t even count.

When I started college, the first few months were HORRIBLE for me. But soon after, I made friends with three girls, and we’re still friends, but we rarely meet because two of them are married with babies and we all just got busy with our lives. We do the occasional hi and hello.

When I started university, it was a fresh start. But the first semester was depressing for me as my parents didn’t let me go out with new friends, and soon I became the “weird girl.” I started reading a lot and nobody bothered me, and I was happy with that. But in the second semester, a girl approached me and she literally forced us to be friends. She got married in August and I shared pictures of us here. She could be my BFF but she’s moved to Sri Lanka with her husband and so now, we just talk over whatsapp or facebook.

There was this other girl at university, too. I initiated the friendship, though. And we were really good friends. BFFs, morelike. We spent four years, studying the same courses and taking the same classes. And we always paired together in assignments and projects. We used to go EVERYWHERE together. But. In the last year at university, I lost her to a boy. She got in a relationship with a guy from our class, who is now her fiance. When she started dating him, it was as if I had stopped existing. We used to sit in the same class, together, but we never talked because she was so busy flirting with her then-boyfriend. And so, back to my books I went. I started buying a lot of books and finishing them in just a few days. And when I ran out of new stuff to read, I started re-reading the Harry Potter series (for the fifteenth time). We talk now. But very less. It’s usually when she needs something from me, she’ll text.

I don’t know, though. All this hype about having girl friends, and the Girl Code and Friends Forever. For me, this is all bull. No offense. But seriously. Nothing lasts forever. Not family, not friends, not love. But. Obviously, I don’t want to be a pessimist. So. I am looking. It’s not like I have stopped hoping, because I do. I have hopes, and I have dreams. Let’s see what life has to offer now.


By the way, I’m really sorry for sharing my whole (almost) life story to you here. I had something brief in mind and all this came out.

Doha trip

Okay, so I’ve been literally PINING for a get-away weekend, to go on a holiday or vacation since I gave my thesis in June this year, and my wish finally came true. I went to Doha (Qatar) for 2 weeks, but my vacation was cut short because Dad has to go on a business trip and he called me home early.

I’ve travelled and seen many places (MANY) but it has always been with family. But this time around was my first ever solo trip, which by the way, wasn’t so much solo when I got there, because my mom’s sister lives there and she wouldn’t let me stay in a hotel.

Anyway. My trip was cut short to 10 days but I had loads of fun. I found Doha very peaceful, quiet and relaxing. The weather was pleasant, not very hot. and the people are great. And I am so glad that I had this opportunity, even though I wanted to stay a bit longer than I did. Tbh, I so needed this get-away after my torturous (six-months long) thesis for graduation from university. A much needed vacation, actually. But I’m so happy I could get away even if it was just for 10 days. 🙂

I’ll leave you with some pictures!

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Leaving for the airport

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In the plane.

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No trip is complete without an Instagram picture like this.

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Reading material

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Katara village

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So, at Starbucks, I gave my name as Harry Potter. The server laughed when I told her. I’ve also used Voldemort, Jenna, Hermione, Bellatrix, Draco and Dobby.

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Masjid (Mosque) at Katara Village

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Loved the floors

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Baby cousin ❤ At breakfast

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In the car

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Cutie cousins!

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I have four younger siblings and whenever we travel, I sacrifice the window-seat for them. However, this time, I had it all to myself. 🙂

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I GOT MY FIRST LETTER IN THE MAIL TODAY! EEEEEEEEP!

Okay, okay. Breathe, Mahrukh, breathe. Sorry for that. But I can’t really help it. Even though I wrote lots of letters to people when I was growing up, I never received one. So, this is a huge deal for me. *superexcited*

Okay. As you might all know, I post artwork by this amazing artist/graphic designer on my blog all the time. Her name is Eugenia Clara, and I am in love with her art. We’ve never met, just spoken a few times online through Facebook and DeviantArt. And because I’m such a big fan of hers, she sent me a thank you letter. All the way from Indonesia! I am so happy! Seriously. My first ever letter. ❤ AND she sent me her artwork as well. I’m gonna frame it on my wall. ❤ ❤ ❤

Here are the pictures! 🙂 Unfortunately, I look like a mess right now so I couldn’t take any selfies with the letter.

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Thank you so much, Eugenia! I’ll reply soon. Hopefully, I’ll be creative enough too. 🙂 ❤

 


 

If you want to check Eugenia Clara’s artwork, then click here: Facebook, DeviantART, Blog.